The subject of this week’s What She Said is a 26-year-old Nigerian woman who has not really been gainfully employed since she finished university and was called to the bar years ago.
We spoke to some Nigerian women about how dating is in Nigeria, and how much it differs from dating in other parts of the world. Amanda, 19 Canada is almost always cold. The cold was like the filter that made the relationship sweet. We can cuddle in winter, and we will not be sweating while […]
As a woman, you need to hinge your existence on a man. You need to be his ribs, neck and more importantly, his backbone. If you are a woman who struggles with being a bone, don’t worry. Zikoko has curated a guide with illustrations on how you can become a backbone.
Have you ever seen some memes that immediately remind you of something or someone? Well, these memes were basically made for Nigerian women. 1) Expressing love Imagine thinking Nigerian woman will be caught expressing love. What next? Flying pigs??? 2) Enjoying evil Nigerian women enjoy wickedness, especially when they are the cause. If a Nigerian […]
The subject of this week’s What She Said is a 61-year-old woman who left her family behind a few years ago to start a new life in Europe. She talks about why she left, the backlash she received and why she doesn’t regret it.
As you continue going on dates, here are the six kinds of Nigerian women you will definitely come across. 1) The nice ones She is not into you. She is just a nice woman that is trying to be polite. Do not mix up the two. 2) The annoyed ones She is just thoroughly annoyed […]
A lot of people tend to experience pain when they have their periods. Some women have been able to hack this thing (lucky them), so we asked them to share how they handle period pain. P.S: None of these are professional advice from a doctor. Just women stating what has worked for them. Amaka, 25 […]
The subject of this week’s What She Said is a 26-year-old Nigerian woman. She talks about the trauma she faced growing up with her mum, her dad leaving and how therapy improved her relationship with her mum. Tell me about your earliest memory. Growing up, I was very stubborn. I used to get into a […]
Someone knowing that they cannot have sex with a woman unless she is incapable of movement, speech or general control of her senses is the only cause of women being drugged. We spoke to 9 Nigerian women on their experience being drugged. Context warning: Stories could be triggering for people who have either been raped […]
Threesomes: for when sex between two people is never enough. Because they can be had by any gender, and people hardly ever center women when it comes to sex, we spoke to 7 Nigerian women about their threesome experience. Ajike, 23 So, it was with this guy that has been toasting me, and his girlfriend. […]
Being a woman is already hard enough. We have to deal with harassment, unrealistic societal expectations, fear of getting raped and murdered for rejecting romantic advance, and the list goes on. Now, reports are, women are getting denied entry to certain spaces without a male chaperon because they are perceived as prostitutes.
I wore something that didn’t even expose any part of my flesh but because it was bum short, people were talking and he followed them to embarrass me in public. Something in me shifted that day. I sha cheated on him ( I don’t regret it). I told him I cheated, he forgave me, I cheated some more then I broke up with him.
My husband was unavailable. I had to drive myself for over an hour to the hospital. My car seat was soaked in blood. I went to the hospital, and they told me that I had a miscarriage. I was in so much shock that when I got home, I went into the kitchen with my bloody leggings and finished cooking.
We know you have been eyeing that bone straight wig on your timeline for about a month now. You have sent it to all your men and women and they are all airing you. In fact, even anon is suddenly quiet. All of this shame and disgrace for what? Ordinary bone straight? That is why […]
Someone tried to make a list of foreplay options you could try with men. *Laughs in Nigerian men* Here are valid reasons why you should never try these options with a Nigerian man.
October is breast cancer awareness month, and in order to do our part to raise awareness on breast cancer, we spoke to Temitope Alao-Sanni, a registered dietician and nutritionist at Diet Tech Africa, on how diet affects terminal illnesses such as cancer, and health tips people can follow. How does food affect cancer doc? There […]
My aunt who is an unemployed single mother of one was diagnosed with cancer. She has been very secretive and gets defensive when asked about it. After convincing her to see a doctor, she refused to tell anyone about her diagnosis, taking agbo – local medicine – instead and saying this is how God probably wants her to die.
Polyamory has been explained as consensual, ethical non-monogamy. 6 Nigerian women tell us what it is like dating while polyamorous. Janet, 25 Men will swear that they understand what polyamory is until you turn down every single threesome they propose. I may like intimate relationships with multiple people, but I cannot sleep with more than […]
For this week’s What She Said, I spoke to Chioma, who had a life-changing experience at 19. She talks about what it felt like losing her leg to an accident at 19, how she has adapted to the change and getting a first-class in law school. Tell me about the accident. I remember it like […]
Body dysmorphia is a mental health disorder that makes you obsess over your physical appearance. You constantly try to fix or hide these perceived flaws that may not be noticeable to others but yourself. We spoke to five Nigerian women about what it is like hating their body in a way that makes them obsess […]
Before him, I had sworn to leave any man who cheats on me. With him, I found myself hoping he’d ask for forgiveness so we can get back together.
No, his name is not Femi.
What is the Feminist Coalition and what do they do? And why are they under threats?
It is very easy to forget to prioritise your mental health in the midst of the protests and what seems like a very important part of Nigeria’s history. We asked five Nigerian women how they manage to protect their mental health even in the midst of it all. Sandra, 18 When it gets too much, […]
Women have been said to be at the forefront of this protest. Although some people say women should not join the protest, they did anyway. We asked six Nigerian women why they joined the #EndSARS protests. Linda, 21 Every day I spend on the road, is for the women and the queers. Police brutality affects […]
The feminist coalition is a body run by a group of women with their main focus being fighting injustice. They do not organise. Rather, they’ve assisted, structured and dispersed funds for the #EndSARS protests. Here are some of the things they have done. 1) Feeding Some of the money has been used to pay for […]
When the women in Agbaja area saw a decrease in domestic animals and observed an increase in female mortality, they stayed away from home for a month in protest. These women left their husbands’ villages and went to either Umunumu or to Orie Ekpa (market) with their mats so they could sleep wherever night met them. When their husbands went to ask the reason for their withdrawal, they said too many women were dying.
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