7 Things You Need To Stop Being Ashamed Of As A Woman

November 2, 2021

If you are a woman reading this, here’s a sign that you need to be kinder to yourself. Life is too short to live in shame for things that do not even add money to your bank account.

Amen?

1. Stretch marks

That anxiousness you feel when it’s time to go to the pool or wear that sexy lingerie that’s been boxed up in your wardrobe… Because of stretch marks? Stretch marks are perfectly normal and do not diminish your beauty or worth as a woman.

2. Getting stained on your period

Going anywhere while on your period can be an anxiety-filled experience; the carefulness, unease and asking your friends “Am I stained?” But the real question is, why is there so much shame around being stained? In secondary school, boys would point it out and laugh when a girl got stained, adding to her embarrassment. That has to end abeg. You already have to deal with the pain and stress that comes with periods. Don’t add dying from mortification to the mix. Na stain you stain, you no kill pesin.

3. The smell of your vagina

This is the reason many women do not allow themselves the enjoy being eaten out during sex. You need to stop focusing on how you smell or what your partner thinks of you. In fact, fight anybody that says you need to smell like perfumes and roses. As long as you maintain proper hygiene and are free from an infection, own your unique scent, girl.

4. Having pubic hair

Deciding to go hairless or not down there, should be a personal choice. So, if the only reason you wax or shave is due to fear of not being “smooth as a marble” for your partner, then maybe it’s time for a wake-up call: having hair is normal, and nothing to be ashamed of.

5. Your breast shape and size

Do you ever feel like your breasts would look better if they were a different shape or size? Honey, that’s valid. But then breasts are not one size fits all, and there are other interesting facts about them. Don’t let online “packaging” make you keep your girls from seeing the light of day. Embrace and flaunt them unashamedly!

6. Rape

You’ll never know some people think in a smelly manner until they talk. Talmabout, “She wanted it”, “She seduced him with her dressing,” Rape is not a victim’s fault. If anything, it’s the rapist who should be ashamed. Women need to break the generational burden of wearing a cloak of shame over traumatic experiences like this.

7. Yeast infections

You’re bound to have yeast infections every once in a while due to a number of factors e.g an imbalance in your vaginal pH level. It doesn’t mean something is terribly wrong with you. Please do not be ashamed about talking to a doctor when you experience the symptoms of a yeast infection.

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